Breast cancer · Real talk · By Alessandra Marra
The bestie who's been exactly where you are.
I was diagnosed at 40, went through chemo, cold capping and surgery in Thailand, and came out the other side thriving. This is everything I learned. No pink ribbons, no toxic positivity.

Node-positive, May 2024
Chemo, cold capping, surgery
And thriving
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Hi, I’m Ale.
Italian, living in Chiang Mai, thriving.
In 2024 I found a lump in the shower and waited two months before I went. Those eight weeks are the only part of my story I’d take back.
The diagnosis was triple-positive breast cancer, stage 2. I got it in a country that isn’t mine, in a language that isn’t my first, with my family thousands of kilometres away. Then came the full program: surgery, eight rounds of chemo, twenty-five sessions of radiotherapy and, a year later, a double mastectomy with reconstruction. Alongside the conventional treatment I used every integrative tool I could find, from nutrition and supplements to movement, sauna and red light. I wanted to do everything, not just what was prescribed.
Everything after those eight weeks, I did on my own terms. I had one rule: I would never look sick. So I worked, I trained, I kept 60% of my hair, and I never fell down the Google hole.
I was cancer-free in under a year. My scans are clean, and I’m happy in my body. I don’t call myself a survivor or a fighter. I went through something hard, handled it my way, and got on with my life.
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